Regan Lea Asquith

Regan Lea Asquith 13.04.05 – 16.02.10

Regan was diagnosed with Meningitis at 2 weeks old, despite medical professionals telling us she only had around 8months to live, Regan recovered from the initial infection of Meningitis, but this left its own damage. Re-Occurent Chest Infections, Seizures, Dystonia and that's for starters!. She lived for over 4 years, In that time Regan was in and out of hospitals and Regan had also been Resuscitated 5 times, However the life she was living was of good quality (to say the least) .

("We had our good times, we had our bad times.
The love that Regan received, she would turn it round, right back at you, 10 times the size!.
She laughted, she cried, she certainly moaned. She knew what she wanted and she knew how to get it." - Daddy)

She got better everytime, or so it seemed.

Regan became ill in early November '09, It seemed like just the usual chest infection, she gets ill, then she gets better.

This time, this was not the case.

Regan got better initially and came home, but fell ill rapidly and was back in hospital, this happened over a few weeks.

On Boxing day we were told that Regan is not expected to see the hour threw and we should prepare for the worse... she suprised us once again... she wasn't ready yet.

Threw christmas and then new year rolled on... we was still waiting for her to get better.....

During all this time Regan was ventilated with a mask, as me and mum decided that the "tubed" ventilation did not seem the best option for Regan at this time, as it has its own problems and we did not feel Regan would survive the initial damage of the machines on top of her chest problems. Then would she ever come off the machine? We didn't know but it wasn't a risk we were willing to take.

The new year came about and we got too mid January when we had to have a meeting with the Medical staff, regarding Regans future care. When it came down to it, there was none, as far as the hospital goes! The Doctors explained how Regan had been in and out now for quite a long time and regardless of medicines and treatment, there was not much improvement. There was nothing really left for them to do or try!!

The Doctors explaines that it's not really a case of when she dies, but how!! This meaning we had to sit and think what options were best for Regan.

It came down to two... Stay at the hospital and see what happens, chances being she will die there. Or take her home and provide all the necessary care ourselves and see it out.

Die on a hospital bed with nurses running around? Or be at home with Family and home comforts is what it basically came down too.

We took Regan home.

Not really knowing what we were in for, well, more not believing what was going to happen, but how could we leave her there to just wait and see what happens.

We Couldn't.


Regan passed away peacefully at home...
...In Mummy & Daddys arms.

Regan was at home for 2 weeks and what a wonderful 2 weeks that was. Regan was buried 2 weeks afterwards

Regan remained at home from when she left the hospital until the day she were buried.

Just like Me & Mum promised her.

I wrote this for Regan the night before her big day x

MISSING MY REGAN
There are so many things
that I did not say
It was always tomorrow
but never today

I never told you
how much I want you too stay
Even though I knew
you had to go away

I wish that I could sit with you
and sing that song we play
I’ve been missing you Regan
Since you went away

I will never forget you
Not even for a day

In my heart, is where you will stay
Until I reach, my dying day

That’s when I will find you
So that we can play

That’s when I will promise
Together we will stay.

Love you Regan
From Daddy xx